she believed she could…

A single mother/empty nester's survival blog.


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The Waiting

Being organized and efficient is not always the best medicine. There are three days to go before we board the plane that takes my daughter to the next exciting phase of her life, and we are so ready it’s excruciating. All the boxes are packed and shipped, closets are organized, shopping’s done…there’s nothing left to check off the list except to make sure there’s enough dog and cat food for when the house sitter comes. I guess it’s better than feeling the panic of too many last minute things to get done, but this morning as I lay awake at 5:00 a.m. I’m not so sure.

All I do know for sure is we are both ready, like two children who are so excited yet dreading that first day of school, waiting at the bus stop for what seems like forever before the bus finally comes.

That reminds me…I’d better start a new shopping list for a case of travel-pack tissues, because I’m pretty sure a large box qualifies as an extra carry on.


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The List

The blog world is a wonderful thing. I knew there had to be more people out there like me! It even seems some people are dancing in the streets, delighted to finally empty their nest. Me, not so much, but the main theme we all seem to have in common is thinking about time for ourselves and what to do with it. So yesterday, as we were crossing things off the dorm packing list, I decided to make my own list. Call it a bucket list or whatever you like, but the goal is to build a list of any and all things I want to do with my time. Things I’ve always been meaning to do or thought about trying, but could never quite get up the gumption to make it happen.

Being single makes some of those things easier, because there’s no one to convince or cajole but myself. For the harder ones, well, I’m just going to put them down anyway. Middle-aged and single are two traits that I haven’t let get in my way yet, so why start now? The best tip I read was not only to keep the list fluid, but to put it in my phone so that when I think of something it goes right on the list. And since I have my phone with me all the time, it will be a constant reminder to get moving.

Even better, when I shared this idea with my daughter, her smile said it all. Funny how we are both at opposite spectrums of our lives yet we both know it’s what’s inside that drives us. Her independent nature, desire to succeed and self confidence has come from me ~ so why should I stop now?

And here’s one more tidbit I found to pass on: There are meet up groups for all sorts of people and activities across the US and I was pleasantly surprised to find one for empty nesters!

Here’s a link to get you started: Empty Nester Meetup Group

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